People that avoid eye contact can appear shifty. It’s creepy to be talking to someone in any capacity and the person’s eyes avoid looking at you and their body language is dismissive. They put their head down when you walk by even. What’s the reason people avoid eye contact ?
Look at their overall body language and demeanor. People who avoid eye contact often have definite traits or behaviors. When someone you’ve talked to on numerous occasions avoids your gaze, what could be the reasons. Are they shy or have an anxiety problem ? Maybe they’re intimidated by you, so they look elsewhere but not at you. Maybe they feel that looking at you will reveal their feelings. Are they jealous ? Do they gossip and backbite you, judge you ? Don’t know you at all, but don’t like you ? What’s the problem ?
Are they intending to offend you ? Or, do they lack self confidence and communication skills ? Maybe they’ve been living a limited life around the same people, and are inexperienced speaking to people that are different than them. People who are sophisticated with an entirely different background than them make them nervous ? What’s their problem ?
Imagine you’re a person with an abundance of professional careers, and so many varied experiences with persons of all races and nationalities in cities and rural towns. You feel comfortable speaking to anyone and everyone and have been doing so all your lifetime. You love people.
Then you’re around someone in your social circle that makes you feel like you’re talking to a wall. Their head and body language is shifty, evasive, untrustworthy as though they’re being deceptive, so they unintentionally avert your gaze; and it feels strange to be around them. You’ve never experienced anything like it. It’s difficult to like someone like this, isn’t it? Yes, it is. What do you do?
Eye contact is a sign of engagement. A person with a lovable Christlike personality is approachable and friendly, like Jesus was. Someone avoiding eye contact is a sign of emotional discomfort. It makes no sense to you when you’re a kind and friendly person, does it ? If this happens, and you’ve talked to them on occasion and they act like this always avoiding eye contact, try by being kind and say something nice like, ” Is something wrong? I notice you always seem distracted when we speak.”
In Western cultures, eye contact is a positive, friendly sign and is generally expected in any conversation. It’s not hard really to interpret someone’s eye expressions, signals and behaviors the older we become, especially when one is an empath and can pretty much read an entire room full of people and anyone in it. You have experienced doing so.
When someone’s body language and eye contact appear shifty, it’s not you. It’s them. There is something underdeveloped in their personality undoubtedly.
My thinking is to not care at all about a relationship with someone like this. Avoid them. Are they even mature, ask yourself? Fact: People can be senior citizens and be immature and children can be young with common sense and be mature. Remember this. Children are unlimited. Teach them.
Don’t care too much what anyone thinks about you. Someone who can’t properly communicate with you and doesn’t show any sign of love or even to be a suitable friend for you. It’s okay. You probably have nothing in common anyways. There are so many more suitable friendly personalities that appreciate you and are sincere. Why waste your energy ?
In other words, love them, but you probably don’t want to engage with them much because they are unlikeable to you, so move on.
You’re smarter than to have negative feelings about anyone. It’s not emotionally healthy, and not worth the trouble really. You have a lot of personality. They might not. A lot of folks have absolutely no personality. That’s their problem. Not yours.
“Love Your Neighbor As Yourself,” and you’ll be just fine. (Matthew 22:39, Mark 12:31, Luke 10:27.)
Always Christian with Love from Anne Fisher Foundation.