“That lady is nuts,” I thought, “Why does she stay with him?” “All he does is abuse her constantly.”
“Why is she cheating on that gorgeous, hard-working, industrious good man she’s married to?”
“I cannot believe that lady is slapping and kicking her husband like that,” I thought, “Arrest her!”
Three different circumstances in three different households. All are unique to the couple’s lifestyle. One housewife is being both emotionally and physically abused. Another housewife is having an affair on her husband, and another woman is physically and emotionally assaulting her husband all day, and all with no consequences. No one is reporting any of this to anyone, including law enforcement to protect themselves, their friend or family member, and it continues on and on and often for years upon years of domestic violence and abuse. Why do they stay together ?
Domestic violence is rampant everywhere nowadays. Families are under a great amount of stress. Couples, often tired and under pressure, don’t get along. Someone is immature or moody and lazy.
The last person you want to grow old with should not be with someone who constantly causes chaos in your relationship. It just won’t work. We have to face things throughout life, and it’s better to face a problem sooner than later, especially in matters of the heart and our physical and emotional well being.
It will be a sad life for someone in a marriage with a spouse that has no control over themselves and shows no accountability for their wrong actions and does not have your better interests in mind. Very hard to endure a life like it. It’s important to evaluate your relationships, and to plan well ahead if you have to end it. If you are married with children and female, it is usually best that you stay in the home for the comfort and well-being of the children, and the man leaves if he is violent.
In a domestic violence situation, you call 911 and ask the man to be taken away by the police and early the next morning, you go to your local courthouse and have a “restraining order” filed, and ordered that same morning by a judge. The sheriff serves it and you are now protected. It is not wise to stay in a relationship with someone who is emotionally or physically is violating you. Protect yourself. Especially if you have children. Children are injured emotionally when they witness such chaos. Don’t procrastinate. Be strong and get the help you need and survive, learn and be wise. Unfortunately, it is a well known fact that victims of domestic violence return to their partner though. Why is this? It is because of survival and the emotional and financial needs of the victim.
Don’t let it happen again. When family or friends witness domestic violence or child abuse they have a responsibility to assist the victim. Victims of domestic violence or child abuse are in shock. Be gentle and sympathetic toward a victim of violence. Be supportive by talking and comforting the victim, and ask how you can help. When matters improve, tell them you support them in their well- thought-out-plan to move forward and survive the rest of their life in peace. Grow old in peace.
Always Christian with Love from Anne Fisher Foundation.