It’s a gift from our Creator, and entirely natural to want to be loved, and to be in a relationship with someone we love, who cares deeply and loves us equally. At what expense though. Everyone reacts in relationships differently. One woman is entirely aloof to any personal contact with someone who is showing great interest, while another woman is swept away, unstable emotionally by the same attention. It’s similar with men. One man is looking for a conquest and only sex, while another man is seriously seeking a long term relationship. Know what your looking for in a relationship.
Then there is the challenge of physical intimacy. What’s behind that kiss ? Or, should I say, “whose behind that kiss?” Is it wise to let anyone touch or kiss us who we know little or nothing about ? Of course not. Who have they been touching and been with. Are they even clean ? If you’re a loving kind person, you could become enveloped with a seriously warped individual; a violent predator even. Every one in the dating scene has to give this some thought nowadays with dating.
Why would you set yourself up for disappointment or even heartache ? It’s wise to step back and examine who the person is; what’s their background and what are they seeking in a relationship ? More than likely you are not compatible. Even adults who have had enough relationships in life to know what they want and don’t want in a relationship make mistakes and get tied up with the wrong people. Is it all physical attraction ? Do you even have any similar interests ?
Remember too, watch out for people that are wearing a mask, such as a narcissist. They only let you see what they think you want to see, and act like they know you want them to act. Then, suddenly, the mask comes off. They are an entirely different person than you thought. Who knew ? Now you do. You find out, there’s nothing in there, nothing in them and they’re basically wickedly seeking control over you to get your attention. They have no empathy. Their actions in the relationship appear to cause you emotional problems usually after a few months when the mask comes off, and they start to show who they really are. It’s a roller coaster of abuse then love bombing, abuse, then love bombing. They’re wicked. That’s who they are. They are controlled by dark spirits. Once an intelligent person observes the actions of a narcissist, they get it. It pisses the narcissist off too. Their illusion of themselves is no longer in control and they lose their minds.
You’re smarter than to let this happen to you. You will never be secure or happy with a lot of those who admire and give you attention throughout life. They’re just ships passing in the night. Enjoy the chase…it takes time to know someone. Know that the person that is immorally pursuing you, will immorally pursue the next person when you don’t provide them with what they are seeking and hurt you deeply. Then you have to deal with the breakup. You can’t breakup fair in a rigged game.
Find out what’s behind that kiss. Don’t continue to make the same mistakes. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23) Be wise. Love yourself first.
Always Christian with love at Anne Fisher Foundation. Amen