Holy Scripture strongly warns against anyone spreading confidential information. At Proverbs 25:9 God commands, “reveal not secrets of another,” and Proverbs 11:13 notes that gossips spread secrets, trustworthy people keep matters confidential. Then there are people who know absolutely nothing about you, so they make accusations up. They need something to talk about?
I attended a lady gathering at a local church in light conversation about others who I was entirely unfamiliar with when a woman there in front of me, I inquired about a lovely fellow Christian, the lady said loudly, “her daughters are illegitimate.” My feelings were hurt hearing someone talk about another’s difficult past as an identifying characteristic of a fine woman. Mind you, these are women living in a very small American town. Another time at a lady church gathering the subject I brought up was foster homes. Something about a local news brief. I spoke out about the abuse going on in foster homes across America. The sexual abuse the emotional abuse the financial abuse and the physical abuse of foster children where their foster parents having no skills have the children for the sole purpose of financial gain all of which are headlines locally and nationally on every social worker’s desk piled so high the social workers, courts and police can’t keep up with it.
The very same lady broadcasting the woman with the illegitimate children is a former foster mother. A simple Christian woman with a simple Christian husband. When I brought up foster homes, she spoke as though entirely naive unaware oblivious to the facts. She confirmed herself as a good foster parent. I changed the subject. She was the friendliest woman with a likable personality in the church. It was the way she spoke I noted. Like she wasn’t mature enough to have a conversation about something she was involved with that was impacting the entire country. I kept it to myself like I always do and didn’t think about it again. Then another time this same lady told me she has now her own mission. She doesn’t speak a word about her mission. She doesn’t ask about mine.
Everyone in this small-town church knows I’m Anne Fisher Foundation. Women Protecting Women and Children and expect someone would be curious. They’re not; no man or woman is curious about Anne Fisher Foundation. Not one woman in over a year or more once asks me about my foundation. Not one. Then well in possibly upward of two years, everyone knows who I am, another woman who has never had an actual conversation with me tells me to stay, “let them know about you?” Okay? Entrepreneurs don’t really do small talk. They don’t know this. No one there does the disciple making work except with a few children. No one there gives to the poor except a monetary donation to a non-profit; and no one there has a care in the world about Women Protecting Women and Children. They’ve got meals to prepare to feed the church members.
I’ve had conversations with so many people about so many things. I’m a legal professional. People confide in me about all their problems I keep confidential. Then there’s women who can’t even have a conversation at the local church. I call them the Stepford wives. It’s as though they’re not even there. They’re incapable of getting to know a stranger? Maybe they’ve never had to. Who knows? Maybe they don’t want to? Even the women in charge called leaders of this or that group they’ve created aren’t courteous or curious about the new girl in town? I’m not sure if this attitude is acceptable to God. Are you? Are they hiding something? Are they abused by their husbands? By the way; men are the worst gossips. Especially narcissistic men who lose control. They become wicked and instantly create a smear campaign; they’re backbiters and gossips.
One characteristic of anyone I come across is this: I know if they are a backbiter or gossip. I know because of the acquaintances we have together or don’t. I know from experience if I approach someone. I will have a conversation or two with someone and know a lot about their character. You can too. It’s not difficult. I know due to the reaction of others when I am there and the change in their demeanor. When adults know little if anything about you and you sense something a bit uncomfortable about their demeanor; what do you think? Holy Spirit reveals gossips and backbiters to us. Holy Spirit protects us from backbiters and gossips whoever they are. Gossips and backbiters cannot come against those with a “Seal of God.” God separates us from them. Don’t forget it.
Always Christian with love at Anne Fisher Foundation. Women Protecting Women and Children. Amen! Amen!