Before explaining the wicked immature personality traits of a narcissist, I want to be clear about why I’m writing about anyone being in a committed or any sort of relationship with a narcissist because the emotional and physical damage done to the victims of narcissistic abuse are insurmountable and recovery after a person rejects a narcissist is difficult. I don’t want anyone to be broken-hearted and go through what so many have been through dealing with a narcissistic relationship. It is said by psychologists that narcissistic emotional abuse causes brain damage. It does, and there is scientific evidence of it when the person has medical scans of their brain. The effects of depression and anxiety on the victim of a narcissist takes time to recover from.
First and foremost, when you meet a narcissist, you’re not going to be able to realize the person is not who they portray to be at all and is wearing and hiding behind a mask their fragile sense of themselves and their unsteady ego. Until you are in a relationship with the narcissist spending a lot of time together will you realize the person is nothing but chaos, toxic. You’re playing in a rigged game and the only way to win is to run.
After a short while of love bombing from the narcissist where they’re putting on an act that they are loving and kind, their wicked true self appears. The victim after several incidents of this emotional abuse will feel as though the narcissist is intentionally causing them emotional difficulties. Why? Because that is exactly what a narcissist does. They cause constant chaos, from love bombing to chaos, up and down, and the majority of victims have no idea what their dealing with. Who would? When in any close personal relationship with another, we give the person the benefit of the doubt. Of course. No one intentionally walks into a toxic relationship with anyone.
Only chaos and the emotional pain they hand out makes them feel anything because there is nothing inside them. Narcissists are shallow people. All narcissists live double lives and have odd behaviors when with you and especially when they are alone looking in a mirror or such. A narcissist is not capable of real love. They do not love you. If you are married to a narcissist, you are the narcissists tool they use to “trigger” you and further control your emotions. They truly hate themselves and have no sense of self-worth. They even gravitate to persons like empaths to make them feel some meaningful reflection back at themselves through the kind words and actions of the empath they are actually jealous of. Narcissists feed off their victims who they either love bomb or upset intentionally, in order to “trigger” and cause an adverse reaction, so they feel in control. A narcissist is always extremely controlling of people they’ve bonded with often to the point of obsession and stalking. Not normal control, but control to the point of choking where the victims feel suffocated.
Narcissists wear a mask to hide their wicked heart. They have no empathy for the victim of their intentional wrongs. A person with narcissistic personality disorder is an antisocial person. A narcissist has no depth of character, no real love, no empathy, low standards, and definitely no accountability, whatsoever, for the constant chaos they create. What they appear to be is a friendly, lovable, kind-spirited, good neighbor. Until you are involved, no one outside your relationship has any idea what you are going through with a narcissist.
They feel they can do no wrong. It’s a form of dark psychology being used to manipulate and control their victims. For example, in a Christian church, the narcissists are the proverbial “wolves in sheep’s clothing.” Read Matthew 7:15-20 and how it explains exactly the deception of a narcissist. If Satan cannot get a Christian, he’ll send a narcissist or two to you, sometimes at the same time. Narcissism cannot be cured. Repentance is not in their vocabulary and according to the narcissist it does not apply to them anyway. They do no wrong and if you tell them they did something wrong, they have no care at all. They’re happy they got a reaction from you so they can feel something.
Once you figure the narcissist out and don’t react to their wicked stupidity, the narcissist begins to unravel. If the narcissist realizes you figured them out and want nothing to do with them, there is nothing but emptiness in them to deal with the situation of being alone with themselves, and the wickedness they’re capable of implodes. You were the narcissists “supply” to make them feel good about themselves because you were kind to them and complimented them. When you dump a narcissist, they’re already working on locating their next “supply.” They hate to be alone.
Bottom line: A narcissist has no self-worth, is shallow with no empathy, controlling to a fault, delusions of grandeur as though superior, arrogant, manipulative and entitled. When you walk away from a narcissist, what follows is always the same in every instance. The smear campaign follows always. The narcissist will talk wicked lies and tell personal information to smear the victim without fail. It always follows.
Beware of the narcissists by not jumping into any relationships without really spending time to get to know who you’re dealing with. Don’t allow yourself to be injured.
Always Christian with love from Anne Fisher Foundation.